Sexual Intimacy and Self-Concept

    I learned a lot about the different types of Dances from Lerner. With my relationship with my husband we are Underfunctioning-Overfunctioning. I am the one who saves money and spends money after we have paid bills and put money in the savings. My husband is the one who needs to spend, spend, spend.

    When my husband and I first started dating, he spent money all the time. I met him and he still spent money like it was no big deal. When we got engaged, he was in charge of our finance's. I was in college full time and couldn't find a part time job that would work around my schooling. He put himself into debt. I was telling him that he needs to save and pay bills first, but his friends didn't like that I was telling him what to do.

     We had to move because I was able to get a job in a different town. We both were working and attending college. He put me in charge of the finance stuff. We got married and I am still in charge of the finance's, but I include him in it. If I need to buy something expensive I talk to him about it and say what the plan is and how we can afford it. The same for when he needs to buy something expensive. He will look in the checkbook and online, ask if all pills are paid and money was transferred to savings before asking if he can buy something for us/me.

    He has gotten better at spending money. He still wants to spend a little bit more then we have planned for spending, but it isn't as much as it was before.